Every day I am a sucker!
In my head, I know that Disney Dad is a liar. He is a liar and a cheat and selfish and uncaring. He has proved time and time again that he is conniving, manipulative, and a very good liar.
But, when we have a phone conversation, and work things out, I believe him. I believe that he has my best interest at heart. I believe that he wants to do the best thing for our daughter. Why do I continue to believe him? When will I stop being so naive?
We were supposed to go to court on Wednesday to file the papers. He said that he was really swamped on Wednesday at work and needed to reschedule for Friday. I believed him. I told him it was ok. I changed my plans to accommodate him. I find out later that he is leaving work early and has an “appointment”. I know he is up to something. It makes me feel foolish that I believed him that he was really busy and couldn’t make it.
We are supposed to ask each other when we spend over $100. We agreed to this agreement. It is in our settlement papers. I believed that he would stick to it. He called a cleaning service to the house I no longer live in to clean the house. The charge is over $100. This was not approved by me. We did not discuss it. He just went and did something that I completely disagreed with. Also, somehow he is able to leave work and stay there for the cleaning crew to clean? Nothing sounds right and if it doesn’t sound true, it usually isn’t.
I have a bad feeling about all this. Something doesn’t feel right. It feels like he is planning something and I am going to get hoodwinked. How did I marry someone who can be so deceitful and so mean? How did I not see this part of him? And when I am going to get it through my thick skull that he is really this yucky person and not the person I want him to be?
Today’s list:
- Thankful for sadness. While I am sad and teary today I know that it will lead me to healing. I know without this sadness I would not be able to heal.
- I am thankful for my amazing readers and their wonderful advice and support. I could not imagine this journey without you.
- The courage to get support. I went to a divorce support group last night that had people from all different walks of life experiencing very similar circumstances. I know I am not alone (even though sometimes it feels very lonely).
- My parents who call me and tell me they love me and that I bring them joy.
- My amazing friends who are a constant stream of never-ending support.
xoxo