At this point we all know that I am dealing with a narcissist.
So the question is, if I want to get things my way, do I appease or not appease?
He wants me to stroke his ego, ask him if something can happen, and let him make all the decisions. We are now divorced. Why does he still get to make all the decisions? It feels like he still holds the power.
For instance, our daughter had a doctor’s appointment scheduled during his parenting time. By law, it is my right to attend this appointment. However, he insisted that I ask his permission to attend. Why should I have to ask him for anything anymore?
There are so many things he still hasn’t done. Money is still missing. The rabbi still hasn’t been contacted. Our daughter’s solo schedule still hasn’t been settled. Our calendar is still a bone of contention. Our bills are not being paid. A new therapist for our daughter has not been chosen. It just feels like there is this unending list. It feels like I ask him 5 questions and he answers 1. He asks 5 questions and I answer all 5.
This relationship is very frustrating and he is full of anger.
The other part of this equation is that my daughter is not happy. She mentioned to me last night that she is spending too much time apart from me and she doesn’t like it. What can I do about it?
I need help. I no longer know how to manage these situations anymore. I am numb from the pain and the hurt. My brain hurts by trying to be rational, calm, and even keeled even though I want to tell him to go fuck himself. Please give me advice on what to do and how to co-parent with a narcissist.
Thank you my faithful readers. xoxo