You are NEVER going to believe this… I finally found my balls!!
We had three points that needed to be fixed on our agreement but Disney Dad was stubbornly not agreeing to them. He was verbally abusive on the phone, saying terrible things to me and threatening to sue me for sole custody.
I had enough. I wrote my points down to him in an email. I told him I would give him one last chance on the phone. I told him that if he couldn’t make this conversation work, that I would be hiring a lawyer and would see him in court. I meant it.
That’s the thing. I have been threatening him this entire time, however I don’t think I really meant it until now. I realize that deep in my soul I had to believe that I was ready and willing to get an attorney involved. Once I believed, I had the courage to stand my ground.
The phone call happened. He agreed to point number one almost immediately. Strange but I am not complaining.
He put up resistance to point two. I told him I would not bend. I stood my ground. I told him that at this point I see we can not come to an agreement so I think it is in both of our best interests to meet again with the mediator but to bring our own legal representation to the meeting. He did not like this. When I insisted that this was our next step whether he liked it or not, he folded and gave me point two.
For point three he started to make jabs at me. He tried to attack my character, to make me feel hurt. What he didn’t realize is that I dressed that morning in a coat of teflon and that his words could not hurt me that day. I told him that if he continued to speak to me that way, our conversation would end, I would put down the phone and hire an attorney. He caved. Point three went to me.
He complained that I was different. Complained that I was mean and that I had changed. You betcha ASSHOLE!! I am strong now, I have balls, and I will never EVER let you treat me like that again.
Next step, make the changes to the MSA, get it signed, and submit it to the courts. Let’s get this show on the road!!
Today’s list:
- I am so PROUD of myself. I did it! I finally held my ground and stood up to him. I DID IT!!
- I am so thankful to my parents, therapist and friends who guided me through this process and gave me strength. I am mostly thankful to my parents who talked me through writing everything down. It was so helpful to have my talking points in front of me. It helped me not waiver and become emotional. It helped me stay on track and be strong. My talking points were definitely what helped me get through this meeting.
- I am happy that my daughter is still having fun in camp and is away from all this.
- He let me lower the price on the house another $5,000. Get this shit sold!!!
Sunday Funday!! Have a beautiful day readers!!xoxo
My Shattered Life As A Jewish Housewife 