It’s been a long time since I have written…
Having my daughter at home with me during the month of June was amazing. I loved spending time with her, bonding, having lunch, and hanging out at the beach. It was difficult to do anything related to work or my divorce while she was with me and I had to be really careful about not talking about anything in front of her, but I managed and I loved the month with her.
Her birthday, on the 23rd of June, was mostly good. Her and I spent the day together going to the movies and getting our nails done. Very innocent and innocuous and fun. For dinner, we met Disney Dad at the most expensive restaurant in our town, his choice of course. As soon as we saw him, our daughter started giving him attitude. He kept trying to get her to stop, but you know teenagers, the more you nag at them the worse they get. Well, one thing led to another and he ended up paying the bill and storming out of the restaurant. On her birthday. Her and I walked out slowly and on the way home I saw him pulled over by two police cars for what I assume was speeding. He came home, lied about where he was, and then went up to his room for the rest of the night. Happy birthday to her.
Last week our daughter went to camp. While I will and am really missing her, I am so glad to have her out of this awful environment and away at her happy place. I hope she enjoys every second of being at the most amazing camp on the planet.
As soon as she left, I packed up most of my things and went to sleep at my parents’ house. I didn’t see any reason for the two of us to live under the same roof. I didn’t “move out” but I am hoping to never have to sleep there again.
My relationship with Disney Dad since she left has been incredibly difficult. He wants to share custody of the dog 50/50. He doesn’t even like the dog. Whenever I tell any of my friends they are always shocked because he has never liked the dog. He is just doing this because he wants to hurt me and have control.
It’s the same with our agreement. As you all know, we have been going back and forth for months now. We started mediation in February. I sent him changes on Saturday June 27th and he still did not send back his response. I had enough. I sent him an email yesterday saying that if he didn’t send me his responses by this Friday July 10th, I would be retaining an attorney. Enough is enough. I am done and I want to be divorced and if he is not going to respond then he has given me no other choices. I really don’t want to start spending money on attorneys but I want to be divorced so I feel at this point he is leaving me with no choices. Once I sent him that email, he wrote me an email in response saying he was going to sue me for sole custody. On what grounds? Because I put a picture of myself with my daughter on a dating site and he says that is endangering her safety. I took the pictures down as soon as he complained, but in no means does that mean I am an unfit mother who should not have any custody of our daughter. I would never threaten him like that. I would never bring our daughter into our arguments. Just add it to the list of yet another reason why I am getting divorced.
And so, every day has been difficult. Even today, I was nervous when I picked up the dog worried he would be home and start threatening me. A realtor wanted to see the house, I emailed him for permission but he did not respond. How can I sell the house if he doesn’t give me permission to allow realtors in?
Why is he dragging his feet? I just want to be done with all this as soon as possible and he seems to want to live in limbo like this for a long long time. I just don’t get it. Why would anyone want to live like this?
Any suggestions about how to manage my day to day would be most appreciated. Love you all my readers and hopefully I didn’t lose you during my short hiatus. xoxo
My list of positive things:
- My daughter wrote me a letter from camp and she is loving it and happy.
- Today I have my puppy who I love so much. He even gave me hugs and kisses, something he never really does. He must have really missed me. It felt so good.
- I really am a tv junkie at heart. I have so much tv to catch up on and I am looking forward to quiet time on my couch doing just that.
- I am meeting an electrician tonight to do some work for me. I think he is interested in me romantically. I am definitely not ready to jump into a relationship of any kind but it feels very good to have someone think I am beautiful and sexy again.
- Have I mentioned how much I love my parents? They are the best!
- I started therapy. I am going to fix myself.
- I took a stand. I am no longer going to let Disney Dad run the show. We are now going to work on my timeline and I am going to stand my ground.
Send me your lists. xoxo